A child is born after 9 months of affectionate bearing of pain by its mother. Once born, the child starts working hard in its own way to face each day... And as the child grows, the "Working Hard" process becomes more and more mandatory and indispensable!
That's the life of every human!
A new born baby sees the beauty of its mother's smile and eyes everyday and wishes to see it more. As it wakes up every morning, It searches for its mother and any of those interesting affectionate relatives, who make the baby feel comfortable. So, that's the goal of a baby when it wakes up every morning!
As we grow, our demands, goals and expectations increase. These demands lead to the will to work hard. Sometimes we also choose not to work hard! Which thus depends on the passion we have to achieve something. Irrespective of a person being rich or poor, every human has his own goals and dreams that make that person live each day and hope for a future.
In this process of hard work and achievements, only thing that matters to people around us and the society is : How far a person's goals and the process of hard work affects them.
(Even a terrorist has goals in life! Killing people gives a terrorist a sense of satisfaction of fulfilling the religious demands set out by people who think like him!) <-- Such goals affect the society! No one wants to die!
So what matters is, our goals and dreams should NOT be detrimental to the harmonious functioning of the society! <-- that's the expectation Society and law has. Human behavior is greatly influenced by the situation that the human faces that moment. However, action and behavior are different. Action is the final outcome of a behavior.
An intention to commit a crime is shown by behavior. But the completion of the intention is by action.
Thus, the actions of a criminal affect some people greatly and dearly; while the society is highly agonized too. A criminal's action always creates havoc and fear. Some people, though are not criminals, create havoc and fear! A husband who always shouts and screams at wife and children creates havoc and fear. Similarly a nagging wife creates havoc to Husband and children. A non-cooperating neighbor is a source of nuisance. An over-possessive doubting boyfriend or girlfriend is a trauma for the respective partner!
(Now who creates fear? Wild animals indeed! Do we keep them with us? NO! So think whether you want to be wild animal or a human!)
But, actions of a loving person is always welcomed. This creates an environment where unwritten laws are made to organize the society in a way that will ensure safety, security and equality.
To live... We need the will to be happy. Now comes the problem of defining Happiness! The general meaning of the word "Happiness" focuses on the fulfillment of the individual's wishes. However, Happiness will ensure the development of life in a progressive manner only if it is defined in the diameter of good will.
Keeping everyone happy is not happiness, but; keeping those happy who want to keep us happy will give the real happiness to heart. Recognizing a person who recognizes you well, will gain you a good friend; rather than choosing society more than a loving person.
To live... decide upon who you need in life! God is supreme. And God has also encouraged the concepts of friendship and relationships (e.g:- David and Jonathan). Thus, even if it is just one single person we have to trust, in life, be thankful! A single friend is better than fifty nice acquaintances!
To live... Decide upon where to give and where not to give! List out the names of people whom you must respect, and those whom u can ignore. List out the names of people who deserve a gift from you, and those who don't!. That way, it is easier to feel confident in deciding about scheduling your year with events.
To live... Be sure to value your family. We might not feel comfortable with everyone in our family. Sometimes, dad might just not understand our deep desires; or Mom might just reject the requests we keep before her; or sister might just refuse to accept your idea of life, love and comfort; or Brother might adamantly deny to believe in your capacity!
But, We must also understand that, whatever they do or say; in the end they speak out of unconditional love towards us! This unconditional love will not be guaranteed by a friend or guide, mentor or teacher; but... only by family! So, to live... instead of rejecting family and blaming them or criticizing them; just patiently look for ways that can open their hearts to understand your desires. (Because, its that heart which also has so much love for you within it! )
To live... Marry only if you want to marry. Do not marry just because everyone around you are marrying, or family is forcing you to marry. Marriage is the bonding between a man and a woman to live life together by sharing each other's desires, fears, worries, concerns, happiness, love, fun, success and failure; and a bonding that cant be broken by any actions of a partner's past. It is of course difficult to find someone who fulfills all your wishes and expectations!
Thus, In order to live...
Don't marry if you do not prefer the person you are gonna marry. (people might say that as time passes, liking and love will also grow!) But decide to marry someone you do not prefer, ONLY if you have at least one point that you strongly like about that person.
Once married to a person you don't know much about, bury all your expectations [ (expectations) ] that you had framed about your life partner. (All the "i want a girl who: will cook well, wash clothes, keep home clean, have joint account with me, always bubbly and fun, enthusiastic and lively, no friends in guys..etc etc"; OR "I want a guy who: earns a lot, has huge bank balance, looks handsome and stunning, works out well, will be patient when i do shopping, will not criticize me in front of others, will accept to live in a nuclear family, etc etc"). Instead, just start your life new with the marriage. It is a beginning of a new life! So first understand your life partner, and then start framing your expectations according to the capacity of that person. That way, your expectations will not be too much to ask for; and there wont be much disappointment.
When you marry someone whom you know for years, Just be mentally prepared for a drastic change in the personality, behavior and expectations of your life partner! Change is constant, and it greatly applies to this relationship! So be mentally prepared!
There are many ways to live a balanced life! It once again depends on the individual.
But, before deciding upon it, lets first frame it in such a way that it does not affect others. A lonely life is better than a problematic life (which causes problems for others always)
Just get closer to God and thank Him for this very life and every single minute of your life! This very next minute can be a surprise (good one or bad too!) So every minute is a gift from God! SO, To live... Be thankful to GOD!
An intention to commit a crime is shown by behavior. But the completion of the intention is by action.
Thus, the actions of a criminal affect some people greatly and dearly; while the society is highly agonized too. A criminal's action always creates havoc and fear. Some people, though are not criminals, create havoc and fear! A husband who always shouts and screams at wife and children creates havoc and fear. Similarly a nagging wife creates havoc to Husband and children. A non-cooperating neighbor is a source of nuisance. An over-possessive doubting boyfriend or girlfriend is a trauma for the respective partner!
(Now who creates fear? Wild animals indeed! Do we keep them with us? NO! So think whether you want to be wild animal or a human!)
But, actions of a loving person is always welcomed. This creates an environment where unwritten laws are made to organize the society in a way that will ensure safety, security and equality.
To live... We need the will to be happy. Now comes the problem of defining Happiness! The general meaning of the word "Happiness" focuses on the fulfillment of the individual's wishes. However, Happiness will ensure the development of life in a progressive manner only if it is defined in the diameter of good will.
Keeping everyone happy is not happiness, but; keeping those happy who want to keep us happy will give the real happiness to heart. Recognizing a person who recognizes you well, will gain you a good friend; rather than choosing society more than a loving person.
To live... decide upon who you need in life! God is supreme. And God has also encouraged the concepts of friendship and relationships (e.g:- David and Jonathan). Thus, even if it is just one single person we have to trust, in life, be thankful! A single friend is better than fifty nice acquaintances!
To live... Decide upon where to give and where not to give! List out the names of people whom you must respect, and those whom u can ignore. List out the names of people who deserve a gift from you, and those who don't!. That way, it is easier to feel confident in deciding about scheduling your year with events.
To live... Be sure to value your family. We might not feel comfortable with everyone in our family. Sometimes, dad might just not understand our deep desires; or Mom might just reject the requests we keep before her; or sister might just refuse to accept your idea of life, love and comfort; or Brother might adamantly deny to believe in your capacity!
But, We must also understand that, whatever they do or say; in the end they speak out of unconditional love towards us! This unconditional love will not be guaranteed by a friend or guide, mentor or teacher; but... only by family! So, to live... instead of rejecting family and blaming them or criticizing them; just patiently look for ways that can open their hearts to understand your desires. (Because, its that heart which also has so much love for you within it! )
To live... Marry only if you want to marry. Do not marry just because everyone around you are marrying, or family is forcing you to marry. Marriage is the bonding between a man and a woman to live life together by sharing each other's desires, fears, worries, concerns, happiness, love, fun, success and failure; and a bonding that cant be broken by any actions of a partner's past. It is of course difficult to find someone who fulfills all your wishes and expectations!
Thus, In order to live...
Don't marry if you do not prefer the person you are gonna marry. (people might say that as time passes, liking and love will also grow!) But decide to marry someone you do not prefer, ONLY if you have at least one point that you strongly like about that person.
Once married to a person you don't know much about, bury all your expectations [ (expectations) ] that you had framed about your life partner. (All the "i want a girl who: will cook well, wash clothes, keep home clean, have joint account with me, always bubbly and fun, enthusiastic and lively, no friends in guys..etc etc"; OR "I want a guy who: earns a lot, has huge bank balance, looks handsome and stunning, works out well, will be patient when i do shopping, will not criticize me in front of others, will accept to live in a nuclear family, etc etc"). Instead, just start your life new with the marriage. It is a beginning of a new life! So first understand your life partner, and then start framing your expectations according to the capacity of that person. That way, your expectations will not be too much to ask for; and there wont be much disappointment.
When you marry someone whom you know for years, Just be mentally prepared for a drastic change in the personality, behavior and expectations of your life partner! Change is constant, and it greatly applies to this relationship! So be mentally prepared!
There are many ways to live a balanced life! It once again depends on the individual.
But, before deciding upon it, lets first frame it in such a way that it does not affect others. A lonely life is better than a problematic life (which causes problems for others always)
Just get closer to God and thank Him for this very life and every single minute of your life! This very next minute can be a surprise (good one or bad too!) So every minute is a gift from God! SO, To live... Be thankful to GOD!
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