How apt is Raksha bandhan for present India?

"A girl asks direction to a police officer, who tells her the way and says "Behanji" in the end. The girl feels touched on being addressed as "behanji" and asks the police officer whether he got any "Rakhi" today. When the Police officer says that he has been busy from morning with his duty, she says:

"Haath dikhayiye"

The Police Officer shows his hand... and the girl ties a "rakhi" on his hand and says:

"Happy Raksha-bandhan" 

The police officer feels proud and reciprocates by giving his number and bestows on her the right to call him up anytime she needs any help. 

Towards the end, he sees two boys eyeing at this girl, and he gives them a rude warning to shoo away..."

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Raksha bandhan has always been very exciting moment for every citizen of this country. I am a south Indian, and in south, rakshabandhan is not celebrated much. However, as i spent my childhood in Mumbai, i grew up seeing the emotions linked with this festival. The girls in my class would be waiting for this day to come and the boys will be curious to see what the girls are upto. Every boy wanted "Rakhi" in his hand. Some boys even had competition on who gets more Rakhis. 

The girls would get very creative in making new Rakhis with sketch pen sponge and color papers, etc. It was fun to see them make like that. Some girls even brought thali and diya and some sweets to do some pooja for the boys to whom they will tiw the Rakhi to, and on recieving the gift, they would give a sweet in their mouth. The boys on the other hand were pressured on getting a nice gift.

That was school-level Raksha-bandhan. However, the real essence of Rakshabandhan is within the family. The sister ties the Rakhi to her brother(s) and prays for her brother's well-being. Seeing the sister's love and passion, the brother feels protective towards the sister and vows to be for her always. In historical perspective, the princesses and queens of the lands tied "rakhi" to neighboring Kings to promote brotherhood among the nations.

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2013

That is the current year.

So how exactly is Raksha-bandhan suitable for this current Indian lifestyle and scenario?

Women are not that introvert! They chose to step out of their homes to tie Rakhi to men outside their homes. 

Asaram Bapu had commented during the Delhi Gang-rape case that the victim should have recited some mantras, or called the tormentors "brother". His suggestion was that in so doing, the girl would have escaped the traumatic incident. 

"Brother" is not just a word. What is more important about the word is: the emotion attached to it. A brother will protect and guide. A brother will not hurt but save. That is called a brother. 

In the present generation, trust is lacking. Women are getting more and more cautious about getting acquainted with men. The sole reason being the fear of facing a situation of the famed victims of crime. 

So... Will a Rakhi help? Is that really a good idea? Making Policeman a brother might help (yes). But are women really trusting policemen? 

I so agree there are many policemen who are genuine and helpful and thats why the crime rate has not escalated to the sky! 

When a mother's love, a sister's prayer, a girl-friend's concern and company, a lady teacher's wisdom, a lady professor's guidance could NOT change such men's minds; how will a "rope" called Rakhi change such men's mind?

How will this rope make them resist committing a crime when the real emotions did not transform them? 

Every man who has got a Rakhi must know... that, a Rakhi from a girl is not just for that girl's protection... But to make him realise that he must be a good brother to his sisters, and a good man to women. . . . 

How i really wish that a "Rakhi" could change...!

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When Will "such men" Ever Learn?

Another Rape victim reported in Delhi.

This time,the victim is not a woman, but a girl. A little 5 year old girl.

When I first read this news on Yahoo! news, I Cried and felt extreme anger and helplessness over the inability in doing something. Of course I can join a protest, or write a Blog or talk to many people. But that is what we all have been doing whenever such a news comes out.

Has it ever been effective? If it was, then such crimes wont happen.

Dec 16, 2012 the news about Nirbhaya (the 23 Year old gang-rape Victim) was out and it led to a huge protest that was pretty effective in empowering the rape victims to come out and report the crime boldly. Yet, The real change that is mandatory is yet to come...

The change in Men.

A fear that should be installed in the minds of Men to stop them from doing such things.

The facts about this current rape case of the 5 year old girl is sickening. Things he has done to her is horrible. He is definitely an animal in the skin of a man. He has mutilated certain parts of the child's body. How can someone be so inhuman? Is he even a Human?

So what is feasible?

Following are the suggestions by the people during different protests and public debates:

1. Mandatory Death penalty.
2. Castration.
3. Mutilation of their body in public view.
4. Make them run naked and stone them to death.
5. Denial of all basic, civic, legal, humane support to them..

However, the foremost thing to do is, to SHOW the face of this accused to the public. Reveal his identity to the people and to the world, regarding his name, age, occupation, residence, education...etc. Why safeguard his identity and human rights when he had no regard for the basic well-being or human rights of a 5 year old child?

Why cover his face?

There are many explanations that can be given in defence of this 'covering of the face'. The questions like: "what if he is not the real accused?" Then an innocent man might get defamed unnecessarily. But, if the accused has accepted to the execution of the crime, then why not reveal his face so that, He can at least undergo the mental trauma of being humiliated in the society for this heinous crime? Am sure this mental agony is nothing compared to the two days agony undergone by the little 5 year old girl!

It has always been done this way. The accused in India is given more identity protection than the victim. They did not care about innocent people's rights... Why should we care about their rights? This is how the bad men misuse the good humane rules and laws. So lets STOP being Good to such men.

Something serious need to be done. A solution is necessary to bring a fear in the minds of men or any individual who wishes to do such a crime.

It is high time we define the Rarest of Rare case and STOP thinking about the so called "human rights" of the accused. 

(Human Rights for accused)

What about the "human rights" of the 5 year old child? 
or the 23 year old physiotherapist?

Its time we think and prioritize on who is a greater victim (The Victim of the Crime? or the Victim of the Good Laws?) and thus use the concept of Balance of convenience, which definitely tilts towards the victim of the Crime and NOT towards the accused. 

To all the men out there who have this untamed animal hidden within them,  BEWARE.

People of this nation might be silent, but do remember that it is the few steps that the lion takes backwards before attacking. The day will come soon when such men will get their most deserved punishment. I just hope it comes real soon before another such incident is reported.

The Blast

The recent Boston Blasts

Pic source link:

( http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/blast-scars-sacred-day-for-local-boston-marathon-runners/2013/04/15/753b08ea-a618-11e2-a8e2-5b98cb59187f_story.html )

They all woke up thinking their day would be amazing and fun-filled. Marathon is something that we all love to see or participate. It would have been a morning of fitness filled with laughter, surrounded by cheers and encouraging statements from the supporters of the marathon runners.

Many would have got their camera ready to capture the lovely moments of their loved ones giving their best in the marathon. What a moment it would have been to capture!

But Boom went the sound. 

Who would have imagined it? Expect the unexpected! Yet, This unexpected event is something no one will wish to expect. Who wants to expect a blast in moments of happiness? 

There are elements in the society present in every nation who plan and implement the notorious intentions of ruining the happy moments of the society. Is it just about ruining happiness? I doubt that. It is much more than that. It is the will to prove that "I have the power to take lives!"<--That<-- is filled in the minds of terrorists.

But I would Just like to remind the terrorists that... Irrespective of the number of lives that they take away, they can never take away the love and affection that binds every human together during the moments of chaos and trouble  Terrorists should not switch off the TV after seeing the blast they masterminded, instead keep it rolling for some more time and see the way people help each other to survive; and encourage the victims to hold on for few more seconds till they reach the hospital and get treated. 

This is the will of humanity: To live and let live. This "will" lives and blooms in the hearts of all human beings in this world except terrorists. So terrorists better understand that they can never win and will always remain loosers; because they can never remove this will from our hearts.

As far as we all continue helping each other and thrive to sustain the humane touch in our hearts.... It is always a "Fail" for the terrorists!

CHEERS TO HUMANITY...!

A Milli-Second Escape

On Feb 1, 2013: Saw close  the back of the three wheeler cart and next second... All I felt was pain! I woke up and felt numbness in my mouth. Tried to check out my mouth to find out what was wrong there. I felt the absence of a tooth. I was shocked! I lost a tooth!? checked my watch. It said it was 2:46 PM. I started driving my vehicle at 2:30 PM. Am sure the accident would have happened in between 2:41 PM to 2:45 PM. But the great escape was in few seconds. 

I sat down on the pavement and I touched my head and my hands. All was fine! Praise the Lord. I just lost my tooth! Yay!

Yay!? Well... That means i have to see a Dentist!! How i hated to sit in that dental chair. Now, I will be forced to sit there. Who knows for how many sittings!? I checked my watch. It said it was 2:50 PM. 

It was only after i subjected my mind to all these series of thoughts, that i looked around me. Saw where I was. I was in the Marina Beach Road. People were standing around me. There was a girl in Burkha who kept saying "Oh she was driving so fast!" and she continued to say that "And she did not wear a helmet!"

Now, this made me feel so guilty and scared. My mom will be so mad at me! She always said "wear helmet" at least 10 times before i left. And all that i would say was "Oh sure!" or "Yea mom..." but never really took it seriously.

Today, because I did not wear a helmet, I met with an accident and lost a tooth; which means i will have regular appointments with Dentist hereon. "Sheena!!!!" I scolded myself.

The pain in my mouth started increasing. And i heard people discussing the hospital i should be taken to. One man offered to call up "108- Ambulance". I then felt the urgency to speak up in pain and make sure that am not dumped in some hospital or clinic, but insist on running to my home! My home sweet home, where I have my parents who are doctors and can decide the best for me. So I tried to shake my hands and speak, and made it very clear that i want to go home!

One auto driver understood what i was insisting on and offered to take me home. Finally i got into the auto and as we started the ride, I saw one boy riding his bike close to me and insisting that I should get a TT injection in a near by clinic. I told him that "I want to go home" (Like a little kid would say 'I want ice-cream'). The auto driver gave a stern look to the Bike rider and zoom went the auto leaving that boy far behind. He assured to me that no one can take me to any other place than my home! I felt relieved. Though i knew he was eyeing at the huge amount he would get to drop me safely home from Marina Beach (far distance indeed), yet i appreciate his capacity to make the entire mass of people who wanted to take me to a hospital in an ambulance silent.

Feeling safe and comfortable in the auto, i called up my father first. Checked the watch. It was 2:56 PM. I told him that I met with an accident and tht am coming home. And i also informed him about my tooth. He just said "ok come home soon". My strong dad!

I then called up my sister and she was giving assurance that my tooth can be mended and that she is glad i am fine enough to go back home safe on my own in an auto! I felt relaxed. Right then the auto driver asked me whether i knew the girls in the two-wheeler riding behind me.

I turned back to see who they were. It was the same Burkha girl and her friend. She was following the auto. (How sweet of her!) But then the auto driver felt insulted. He was grumbling that people don't trust auto drivers now a days. I just did not have any energy or strength to pacify him that he has been a helpful auto driver today! I Just told him "Thank You!" Thats all I could speak with my injury.

Finally my campus arrived and i saw my mom and my nephew waiting to recieve me. The girls in the two-wheeler too came over and spoke to my mom. the girl in burkha made it a point to inform my mom that "she did not wear helmet". I then relaised the real motive behind her visit. (hehe) As expected, my mom gave me a sad stern look that said "u never take me seriously!" 

I thanked those two girls with all my heart and they smiled brightly and said "take care"

Life has its own surprises. Accidents are the greatest! But each accident teaches a lot. I saw how helpful people can be to a fellow human, and also saw how a milli second can change our entire life!

I fell face down on the solid road. Had i touched the road with my fore-head first, i would have got a severe head injury, or maybe i would not be here typing all this!

Am thankful to God for keeping me alive today for whatever purpose he has in my life! 

Every second is a gift indeed! :)

Boat Tragedy: How safe is that fun?

(http://www.deccanchronicle.com/130127/news-current-affairs/article/land-water-tragedies-too)

Reports on Accidents happen often in our daily newspaper. When we read it, all that we feel is "Oh! That's sad!". Some of us get deeper and write a reply by suggesting solutions and measures to prevent future accidents of same manner. Appreciated!

However, the real  pain can be explained only by the victim and the family of the victim. They also experience the brunt of any consequence of the accident, as well as the reactions of the authorities.

The recent Boat tragedy in Alappuzha River, that killed four people, was a sickening incident. The immeasurable pain that the family members of the victim would have undergone and still do, is mind-troubling. All those who died, had the right to live. However, death has its own time of visit. It is the only uninvited and disliked visitor that will definitely visit everyone suddenly in our life, that too Just Once. May the soul of those who died rest in peace.

Life is bestowed in us still. Not that we are better off than those who died. Its just that, God has given us one more chance to live well. Let's all take on oath to live a life that will be safe for us as well as others around us. Had the Boatmen and all those in-charge on that fateful "moment" been more careful and responsible by burrying all the wishes of getting people on boat in a "hurry", then those four precious lives might have been saved.

This boat tragedy  does not make the entire boating stream dangerous. Nor will it halt the entire boating business. The business will move on. People will continue to see "fun" in this business. However, let us just learn to get alert! Even when there is a boatman who has to take care of the entire procedure of getting into the boat and getting off it, If every tourist and passenger of the boat is alert and serious enough, then lot of accidents can be prevented. Even if the boatman asks you to jump into the boat when there is already someone standing in the path, its easy to say a "no! Let him go first!" When the boatman asks everyone to get in and you see that the boat is getting full only in one side and you feel the risk of the boat getting tilted, then it is more simple to say "Let us all wait till the people already inside the boat settle down in a balanced way" and thus contribute towards arranging the boating experience in a safe and fun way. 

Just remember that there is no point in being the "first" to get into the boat. You have decided that "i will go boating today". So, anyways you will go boating today. Why hurry? Just wait patiently to experience a safe and enjoyable boating experience. :)

Let us do "our" part in avoiding accidents...

Lets become responsible at least when other's lives are at stake. Let's get sincere and serious when other's lives are bestowed in ours...

 Live and let live! 

ALSO READ:-  (http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/chennai/bodies-of-alappuzha-boat-tragedy-victims-brought-back/article4351251.ece)

You Will Not be Forgotten...

Always Remembered...

(Source: http://joerose.hubpages.com/hub/I-am-Willing-Be-Cleansed )

Dr. Graham Stuart Staines was an Australian Christian Missionary who along with his two sons : Philip (age:10) and Timothy (Age: 6) were burnt to death by a gang while sleeping in his station wagon at Manohaspur village in Keonjhar District in Orissa, India on January 22, 1999. In 2003, the Bajrang Dal activist Dara Singh was convicted of leading the gang that murdered Staines and He is now serving life in prison.
Dr. Staines was working in Orissa among the tribal poor and focussing on the Leprosy patients since 1965. 
(Source: Wikipedia)

Its been 13 years and still this incident feels like it has happened recently. It is the brutality of this incident that can't be forgotten by anyone. However, the more memorable aspect of this incident are the statements of Ms. Gladys Staines. 
"I have forgiven the Killers and have no bitterness because forgiveness brings healing and our land needs healing from hatred and violence. Forgiveness and the consequences of the crime should not be mixed up" Ms. Staines said in a statement issued from her Mission House residence in Baripada Town of Orissa's Mayurbhanj District.
(Read: http://www.hindu.com/2003/09/23/stories/2003092305471200.htm)

The death of Dr. Staines and his two children, has paved way to the understanding of the concept of Forgiveness and the true essence of Christian beliefs. This grave incident has made this world lose three precious good souls because of the total disrespect for humanity, social service, love, peace and harmony. It has shown the way religious misconception can blind one's eyes towards the goodness of a human being.

And so, this incident has shown the intolerance many people in this world have towards religion and people who practice humanity religiously in a peaceful way. Where "humanity" comes, there can be NO room for violence. Dr. Staines was working towards the well being of Leprosy patients. I do not see any room for violent act or disharmonious intention in such a noble action. Yet, He was forced to see a dreadful end. Not just him, but also his two innocent sons. So, Who has practiced violence here? Dr. Staines or The accused? (Obviously the accused) 

The accused is now serving life in prison. Is that justice? In worldly eyes, there will be many suggestions for punishing this accused. Each suggestion will sound the same in the end as it will be in the aspect of "torture" and "pain" to be framed for the accused. 
Thus, The statement  and actions of Ms. Gladys Staines stands out.

Is forgiveness so powerful? The act of forgiveness practiced by Ms. Gladys Staines and her daughter Esther, has made the entire nation stand up in surprise. Because, We are not used to this. We are more familiar with --> "action and its equal and multiplied reaction"<-- concepts. Forgiveness is something we are not familiar with 'practically'. We all know the word and the meaning, but, the true practice of this meaning was highlighted in the aftermath of this grave incident only. 

It has made me think in depth the essence of forgiveness. It all starts with Jesus Christ's crucifixion. The statement of Christ... "Father, Forgive them... For they know not what they do..." has opened the flow of the river of the great power of forgiveness. Words are powerful. And, when words are presented in such a way that they immensely affect the emotions of a person for good, then a very simple thing happens--> It can't be forgotten...
Irrespective of a change occurring or not, such words and actions always stay in our heart.
The impact is felt when we really face such situations. When we are in a position where we are supposed to forgive someone and are unable to...That time, such incidents spark into our mind to guide us. 

Forgetting is not easy. Forgiving is not easy.  But it has been practiced by some people. These are the people who are really mentally strong and emotionally stable. I salute them. 

To live... in relationships

A child is born after 9 months of affectionate bearing of pain by its mother. Once born, the child starts working hard in its own way to face each day... And as the child grows, the "Working Hard" process becomes more and more mandatory and indispensable!

That's the life of every human!

A new born baby sees the beauty of its mother's smile and eyes everyday and wishes to see it more. As it wakes up every morning, It searches for its mother and any of those interesting affectionate relatives, who make the baby feel comfortable. So, that's the goal of a baby when it wakes up every morning!

As we grow, our demands, goals and expectations increase. These demands lead to the will to work hard. Sometimes we also choose not to work hard! Which thus depends on the passion we have to achieve something. Irrespective of a person being rich or poor, every human has his own goals and dreams that make that person live each day and hope for a future.

In this process of hard work and achievements, only thing that matters to people around us and the society is : How far a person's goals and the process of hard work affects them.

(Even a terrorist has goals in life! Killing people gives a terrorist a sense of satisfaction of fulfilling the religious demands set out by people who think like him!) <-- Such goals  affect the society! No one wants to die!

So what matters is, our goals and dreams should NOT be detrimental to the harmonious functioning of the society! <-- that's the expectation Society and law has. Human behavior is greatly influenced by the situation that the human faces that moment. However, action and behavior are different. Action is the final outcome of a behavior.
An intention to commit a crime is shown by behavior. But the completion of the intention is by action.

Thus, the actions of a criminal affect some people greatly and dearly; while the society is highly agonized too. A criminal's action always creates havoc and fear. Some people, though are not criminals, create havoc and fear! A husband who always shouts and screams at wife and children creates havoc and fear. Similarly a nagging wife creates havoc to Husband and children. A non-cooperating neighbor is a source of nuisance. An over-possessive doubting boyfriend or girlfriend is a trauma for the respective partner!
(Now who creates fear? Wild animals indeed! Do we keep them with us? NO! So think whether you want to be wild animal or a human!)
But, actions of a loving person is always welcomed. This creates an environment where unwritten laws are made to organize the society in a way that will ensure safety, security and equality.

To live... We need the will to be happy. Now comes the problem of defining Happiness! The general meaning of the word "Happiness" focuses on the fulfillment of the individual's wishes. However, Happiness will ensure the development of life in a progressive manner only if it is defined in the diameter of good will.

Keeping everyone happy is not happiness, but; keeping those happy who want to keep us happy will give the real happiness to heart. Recognizing a person who recognizes you well, will gain you a good friend; rather than choosing society more than a loving person.

To live... decide upon who you need in life! God is supreme. And God has also encouraged the concepts of friendship and relationships (e.g:- David and Jonathan). Thus, even if it is just one single person we have to trust, in life, be thankful! A single friend is better than fifty nice acquaintances!

To live... Decide upon where to give and where not to give! List out the names of people whom you must respect, and those whom u can ignore. List out the names of people who deserve a gift from you, and those who don't!. That way, it is easier to feel confident in deciding about scheduling your year with events.

To live... Be sure to value your family. We might not feel comfortable with everyone in our family. Sometimes, dad might just not understand our deep desires; or Mom might just reject the requests we keep before her; or sister might just refuse to accept your idea of life, love and comfort; or Brother might adamantly deny to believe in your capacity!
But, We must also understand that, whatever they do or say; in the end they speak out of unconditional love towards us! This unconditional love will not be guaranteed by a friend or guide, mentor or teacher; but... only by family! So, to live... instead of rejecting family  and blaming them or criticizing them; just patiently look for ways that can open their hearts to understand your desires. (Because, its that heart which also has so much love for you within it! )

To live... Marry only if you want to marry. Do not marry just because everyone around you are marrying, or family is forcing you to marry. Marriage is the bonding between a man and a woman to live life together by sharing each other's desires, fears, worries, concerns, happiness, love, fun, success and failure; and a bonding that cant be broken by any actions of a partner's past. It is of course difficult to find someone who fulfills all your wishes and expectations! 
Thus, In order to live... 
Don't marry if you do not prefer the person you are gonna marry. (people might say that as time passes, liking and love will also grow!) But decide to marry someone you do not prefer, ONLY if you have at least one point that you strongly like about that person. 
Once married to a person you don't know much about, bury all your expectations [ (expectations) ] that you had framed about your life partner. (All the "i want a girl who: will cook well, wash clothes, keep home clean, have joint account with me, always bubbly and fun, enthusiastic and lively, no friends in guys..etc etc"; OR "I want a guy who: earns a lot, has huge bank balance, looks handsome and stunning, works out well, will be patient when i do shopping, will not criticize me in front of others, will accept to live in a nuclear family, etc etc"). Instead, just start your life new with the marriage. It is a beginning of a new life! So first understand your life partner, and then start framing your expectations according to the capacity of that person. That way, your expectations will not be too much to ask for; and there wont be much disappointment.
When you marry someone whom you know for years, Just be mentally prepared for a drastic change in the personality, behavior and expectations of your life partner! Change is constant, and it greatly applies to this relationship! So be mentally prepared! 

There are many ways to live a balanced life! It once again depends on the individual.
But, before deciding upon it, lets first frame it in such a way that it does not affect others. A lonely life is better than a problematic life (which causes problems for others always)
Just get closer to God and thank Him for this very life and every single minute of your life! This very next minute can be a surprise (good one or bad too!) So every minute is a gift from God! SO, To live... Be thankful to GOD!

Woman! Wake up!

The Delhi Gang-rape Case has created a huge protest in India! 

    (Source: The Hindu Jan 17, 2013)

The 23 year old Physiotherapist who was brutally assaulted and raped by six men in a running bus is traumatic to even think about! The facts of this case are well known by now. The massive protest across India as well as in other countries has sparked the much needed confidence and support that the silent women needed.

What matters most is, Continuity!

Many of us would have been under weight reduction. Reducing 5 Kg is a nightmare for many people. However, once reduced, it makes us feel very happy. What next? Maintaining the weight is the next target and the most challenging. How long can the person maintain the weight? Or whether the unwanted fat and flabby structure will return?? 

Similarly, how long will this "will" to maintain the protest and pressure on the authorities to take action, on the legal system to give justice and on the silent people of India to wake up! 

Wake up? This is a simple word. "Wake Up!" We hear it everyday in different languages in the morning at home when mom tries to make us get up and face the new day of our life! But, are we really awake?

Rape is a crime. Yes. It is a heinous crime. It not only damages the trust women have on men, but also creates a hole in the system that is filled up by any nonsense character to save the accused and humiliate the victim.

One thing is clear. There are "wild heartless men" out there who care neither about themselves, nor about others. Such people are none less than wild animals. And where are wild animals kept? In Jungles! Away from Humans. So, can these men be kept away like wild animals? Unfortunately No! Because, they look humans, but they are not. It is thus difficult to find out which man is an animal and which one is a human. 

So, Who should wake up? 

Woman!

i will not say "women". It will generalize and loose the individualistic concentration that I wish to imply. 

Wake Up Woman!

Wake up to the reality of this world. Do not live in the world that this society has framed and inserted into your mind. Realize the true identity of yourself and respect the very fact that YOU are a human and YOU have the right to object and reject anyone who does not value your rights and anyone who refuses to show you humanity.

It is ok to speak out and criticize any man who is troublesome. Do not think that it is  wrong to criticize him, or that He will create problem for you. Understand that anyways, he is creating problem for you, so wot is the difference? At least if u speak out about his intentions (that you are aware of), there are 95% chances of getting rid of him either legally (when he further creates problem)  or personally (when he gets cautioned and moves out of your way forever).

Do not think of society too much! because, This same society was silent when a man was trying to grope you in bus. This very society was criticizing you when it saw you talking with a guy friend in a mall. This same society, even if it supports you, will forget you and your cause after some months or years.

SO, who is left with you? YOU! You woman! Just YOU!

And, guess what? YOU are more than enough for yourself. Seriously! Because there are many things you can do to help yourself and many women of this country. 

There are actions that are to be taken. And, they must be taken. These actions should be taken not just by YOU, but by EVERY WOMAN of this country.

Firstly, Refuse to give any privilege to any guy friends of getting close to you anywhere. Refuse to talk on phone, in college, on street, or at home. Even if the he is a good decent man, just stop talking till there is a real change in the amount of crimes committed against women. Boycott all guys! (If in office, your boss is a man, then make it as limited as possible, to treat that boss and male colleague as just another human working in your office. Don't give them the privilege of getting close to you or becoming your best friend. Let all men work hard to earn the respect of women again. If they are really good and decent (as you think). Let the good and decent men join hands to thrash the indecent men and make them right. When they do that, then, the "good and decent" men are worth talking to.

Secondly, Refuse to get married. Just say NO to marriage. (Why?) So many criminals are married too. They even have children! (Lol) So, How would you know whether a man is really the good man you see from outside? let every young man in this country stay unmarried because of the decision of every woman of this country. Show them that they are not fit to be married. (Woman! You don't have to marry in a place where so many crimes are committed. Just think! When your parents see a boy for you, they find out every detail about that boy. They assure you that the boy does not drink, does not smoke, earns well, has a home, etc etc. They will never get a guy for you where criminals live. SO, WHY MARRY A BOY FROM A COUNTRY WHERE SO MANY MEN ARE CRIMINALS WHO ARE COMMITTING CRIMES AGAINST WOMEN AND CHILDREN? Don't they call India as their "home" country?)

Thirdly, Get in touch with all your girl friends. And support them in their problems. I know you all are doing this. But when you follow the first two suggestions I gave you, this action becomes more mandatory. Financially, mentally and emotionally every woman who needs support, get together and help each other out. We have the capacity to work, the right education, and the will power to live life boldly. Do not get discouraged by the society's piercing sentences like "these women will go no where", some even go to the extent of saying "They are not women"! Well, This is the problem! We have been brainwashed by the society in such a way that criminals have a cake walk after committing a crime on us. Let the society get some humanity in its mind, then we can retain ours. Let men learn to grow up enough to respect humans (leave alone women), Then we can respect society's norms. Let them think "they are not women"; who cares! Because men are not being men, society is not being society! 

Fourthly, Beware of those women who encourage the downfall of women rights. The term "Women Rights" has always been under the scanner. Some people think it is unnecessary while many feel it is over-expectation on the part of women. Remember that there are such women who do not understand the problems of women and are themselves problem creators for other women.  A mother-in-law who does not support the success of her daughter-in-law or tortures her daughter-in-law for money or possessiveness towards her son, A mother who does not encourage her daughter to divorce her husband who violently beats her at home, and, all those women who are silently sitting in a bus when another helpless woman is being groped by a man. In fact there are many such women who believe that "a woman who patiently undergoes all the torture her husband gives her, or who is silent and forgiving is a 'good girl' ". Woman! Beware of such ladies. They are brainwashing every woman to be submissive and tolerate crimes.

I am not a feminist. But, what I have written here might sound like I am one. However, think deeply about the forces that pushed me to go to this extent of suggesting. As the protesters have rightly said: "Enough is enough!"