See what I did on my Nephew's Bday! :)

On my Nephew's Birthday party! 

Drew all these pictures depicting our family... 

It was the best birthday party I ever attended because, we all together decorated everything and celebrated it like never before.

LEARN TO FACE THE PHASE

Past months have not been that good for me, yet it is always a phase, which will end one day.

If every situation will please our mind and soul then we would never know our capacities and strengths that are hidden within us. Thus, we just need to know that when a situation surprises us suddenly or we ourselves invite a particular situation on us because of certain reasons, then it is all going to be just an opportunity to discover our inner strengths. 

We get nothing without working for it. Each individual has to work hard to achieve their respective goals and aims. Well this is something I have been hearing from my childhood. But the meaning; I never understood until recently when I faced and am facing certain situations in my life.

I learned that life is not as easy as I thought it to be. I have always been a leader in my life. But now I face a situation where being a leader and to get dominating just does not happen. Facing same situations for a long period of time makes it difficult for a person to face new situation with totally different phases and demands. So what should an individual do when he or she faces such a situation?

“Learn to face the phase and discover the inner strengths to win”

Yes! It is again a beautiful experience actually, though it does not look beautiful. But definitely over a period of time, when we think about these situations of the past, all that we will have in our face is a tiny tear drop thinking about the pain and grief; and a sweet unique smile thinking about the courage we developed in facing it; and finally a positive feeling about the present that “wow! I faced that situation, now why can’t I face the present challenges?”

So that is the gift of the grief that a situation gives. Now my present situations which are giving me pain and grief does not make me feel pathetic because I know in future this present I am facing will give me the strength to face future situations with caution and boldness.

So how do we overcome the present grief? Remember that, what is pain to you need not be pain to your friend. So sharing and pouring it out to a friend will not work at all. It may work for the time being. It will give a peace of mind for that moment. But will the problem be solved? Exceptional cases are there where friend gets so involved in your issue that he does everything to bring you out of it and finally pulls you out of it. Honestly, if you do have such a friend with you, then you are having the world’s greatest treasure in your life. 

Yet, nothing is permanent in this world. Everything has an end just as it had a beginning. So does a human being. Every friend though is very close and caring, always has his own life to look after. And as his responsibilities grow in his life regarding his own family, you will become a minor issue in his life. When this happens, do not get hurt. Feel happy for your friend that he is getting responsible towards his life. So now, what about you! When every human in our life who was supportive and caring starts leaving one by one, the only thing left will  be YOU! 

Yes, my friends! You are the only companion in this world for you. In this road of your life with concrete and muddy roads, sometimes with quagmire and stones; the only companion is you that you are having with you. So get friendly with yourself. Start understanding yourself a lot, just as you try understanding your friend. This understanding of yourself will make you know how to handle the situations of life which are becoming a great huge hill which just cannot be crossed. Self understanding will make you find wings in your body which will lift you so high that you can fly over the hill and be safe and happy. 

Pain and tears will come. The efforts you put in flying so high with your wings will definitely bring pain and tears. Undergo it all. It is for good. Every pain we undergo will bring a new strength within us and a new way of looking at life. It will also help in inventing new solutions apart from following what everyone does.

Remember, finding new solution and achieving success with it will be the greatest contribution you can do towards humanity. 

There is also another friend who wont leave us. Some believe on this friend, some do not believe, some don’t even believe that this friend exists. It is GOD. If you believe in God, start combining yourself with God’s directions and support. It will definitely bring in you the new strength to face the clueless situations. If you do not believe in God, start believing in youself, because as you believe in youself you will understand one day that there is something else too who did this help you needed; it was not a human friend, neither you; so who was it? You will answer it that day. And if you believe God does not exist, then find out why you exist. 

Life is pretty and challenging. Handle it with caution and smartness. Look at it with love and admiration. To be afraid is not cowardice. It is natural for every human. But don’t bring this fear let you feel depressed and gloomy. If you do, then you will just lose few months of your life without doing anything useful. 

Wow! After writing this down, am feeling much better. Now let me get back to my life and see what I can do to get out of these situations.

The Devil named "Mood-out"

It is wierd that we notice certain changes in us, and those changes are just not we would have expected to occur in US few years back! :|

Yes! For eg: We might have loved going to college and hanging around with friends. But now all of a sudden we are just not the same old having fun type! Well, of course the vice versa might happen. Anyways, if its a development towards betterment, always appreciated! (pat on the back)

Now what about the moments when the change is briinging us down into the pit? If You feel that something of this sort is happening in your life then celebrate! Because you have identified this kinda "change" early and you can do something about it. :)

Before this change becomes a part of our personality, it is very important to get rid of it. There are many ways to do that.

1. Get in touch with friends who helped u be positive and productive. Irrespective of how far they are, get in touch with them either via mails or calls or chat.

2. Make a list of things you used to do when u were positive. (Starting from getting up in the morning to sleeping at night. Each and every action that you used to do)

3. Find out the habits that you have left from the list. This could be a reason for the negativity.

4. tick mark this list everyday after completing it. Once that list becomes your habit, u can stop ticking it.

Now, you will not find any negativity or the negative change that is making you go down and mood-out and feel upset comparatively. Life is about making mistakes and correcting them.

Sometimes, its difficult to correct the mistakes. We know that we r committing a mistake, but it is difficult to stop it. That is where we have to be extra cautious and never let our mind fall into depression. Remember that every situation is a phase and will end one day! ...  :)

He or She?

Off late, I have been having lot of discussions on Gender bias. Well, the discussion would start as gender bias, but it always ends up emphasising the role of each gender. I thus, cherish every discussion that i have had with my friends, as there is always a lesson that is learned in the end.

Right from my childhood I have always had the confusion on "why I was born?"... well, to people whom I would try discussing this would think am too grown up for my age to ask such philosophical questions. so here comes the answer... when for past few weeks I have been discussing with a person about gender bias and other relevant topics! It was an eye opener!

In the begining of the discussion, I had this inner anger being pushed out of my mouth trying to yell "why do you men have so much of superiority complex, and no respect for women!?!"
Well, my frnd asked me a simple Q- "Why do women have problem in being women?"
Now, that was a question which I faced for the first time in my life. And further discussions made me understand lot of things about what men expect from women.
So what exactly is being a woman?
1. She has to be the peace keeper of the family and not the problem maker.
2. She has to keep her family as first priority, let what happen!
3. She has to assist her husband in his decisions. (and never question him on his decision<--- should be avoided most of the times)
4. If she feels man is committing a mistake in his decision, she should only "suggest" and not force him to do it!

Well, these are the basic few expectations that men expect from women. These have been followed by women for all these years (of course exceptions are always there). But it is  becoming a matter of debate and arguement in many places starting from schools and colleges to media and parliament, because the women of this era wants to be man's partner and not his assistant. she wants to be his guide and not a mere caretaker of his house and a mother to his children. She wants to take responsibility more than what the men in past generations have assigned to her.

Well, this is difficult to be accepted by men.How can someone who has been the ultimate power in his family and occupations accept another person to share his responsibilities? especially, when that another person is a woman! Well, here comes the EGO. Men are born egoistic. now! Dont argue that u know many women who are egoistic too. I agree there are hardcore egoistic women. But what matters here is, who shows it "more"?

So what is the confusion here? Man is also sometimes a confused individual. He needs money, power, and fulfillment of his needs. For this fulfillment of his basic needs, he needs a woman beside him. Alas, some men accpet this. Some dont accept this, and some others accept with a sense of superiority. (LOL)
So here are born the so called Chauvinist people. these people do not want to accept the possibilities that a woman can perform well. Even if they do, they dont wanna see it, but only see the negatives of a woman. One can also call them the negative pessimistic people. I will never appreciate or even listen to a chauvinist person because his opinions are not worth valuing, as it is just an outcome of a prejudice!

Rather, a Man who says a woman should complete her household duties and also respects and values her talents can be respected lot more than a Chauvinist.

Men have issues about the entire concept of "women empowerment". Women empowerment is the voice of the women centric population of the society. Any such voice out is focussed on certain basic issues. This women empowerment concept has mainly evolved cuz of eve teasing, and insecurity for women in the society. gradually the demand for security in society tilted towards financial security and other such things!
Well, Have not men evolved from being a farmer to being entrepreneurs and other such jobs? Similar is the demand of women for a status of living which also improves their life style and occupation.

Many men want their wives to work and earn for their family. There are few who dont want them to. So this is just an opinion driven by prejudice that women empowerment and better life style for women should not be encouraged.
As a conclusion, I also feel that, women too should know how to be and how not to be in this society filled with chauvinists, chauvinists hidden under feminist, and men who accept women as they are. So just keep it very mandatory to complete the works that the society wants us to do. :)
Further wishes that we women want to get completed .... will be done if God wants it to be done!...
Lets enjoy life and have fun. :)

" ??? "

"Wake up, Sheena!!!"

gaush!!!... Yawn!!... Every morning I hear my mom say that. Whenever that happens, clock  says its 7:00 AM. 

When am I gonna start waking up early! Well, my lazy mind questions me; "is it so important to wake up" (as am still trying to wake up and find out whether its 7 AM or 7 PM). 

"U will get married in some years, and I dont want to send u as a lazy girl then!!" my mom answers. Excuse me! did she hear my mind!

well.... I wonder how many of you have this problem of waking up early. As far as I know, all my friends have this issue. (giggles, as I am not the only one!). Those who say I wake up early in the morning every day, 

U are either lying :|

or

U are trying to please the parents of your friends. :|

haha, I have no issues at all.... Hats off to those who wake up early. 

Now, Does sleeping early really help in waking up early? that is for you to answer! good night.