LEARN TO FACE THE PHASE

Past months have not been that good for me, yet it is always a phase, which will end one day.

If every situation will please our mind and soul then we would never know our capacities and strengths that are hidden within us. Thus, we just need to know that when a situation surprises us suddenly or we ourselves invite a particular situation on us because of certain reasons, then it is all going to be just an opportunity to discover our inner strengths. 

We get nothing without working for it. Each individual has to work hard to achieve their respective goals and aims. Well this is something I have been hearing from my childhood. But the meaning; I never understood until recently when I faced and am facing certain situations in my life.

I learned that life is not as easy as I thought it to be. I have always been a leader in my life. But now I face a situation where being a leader and to get dominating just does not happen. Facing same situations for a long period of time makes it difficult for a person to face new situation with totally different phases and demands. So what should an individual do when he or she faces such a situation?

“Learn to face the phase and discover the inner strengths to win”

Yes! It is again a beautiful experience actually, though it does not look beautiful. But definitely over a period of time, when we think about these situations of the past, all that we will have in our face is a tiny tear drop thinking about the pain and grief; and a sweet unique smile thinking about the courage we developed in facing it; and finally a positive feeling about the present that “wow! I faced that situation, now why can’t I face the present challenges?”

So that is the gift of the grief that a situation gives. Now my present situations which are giving me pain and grief does not make me feel pathetic because I know in future this present I am facing will give me the strength to face future situations with caution and boldness.

So how do we overcome the present grief? Remember that, what is pain to you need not be pain to your friend. So sharing and pouring it out to a friend will not work at all. It may work for the time being. It will give a peace of mind for that moment. But will the problem be solved? Exceptional cases are there where friend gets so involved in your issue that he does everything to bring you out of it and finally pulls you out of it. Honestly, if you do have such a friend with you, then you are having the world’s greatest treasure in your life. 

Yet, nothing is permanent in this world. Everything has an end just as it had a beginning. So does a human being. Every friend though is very close and caring, always has his own life to look after. And as his responsibilities grow in his life regarding his own family, you will become a minor issue in his life. When this happens, do not get hurt. Feel happy for your friend that he is getting responsible towards his life. So now, what about you! When every human in our life who was supportive and caring starts leaving one by one, the only thing left will  be YOU! 

Yes, my friends! You are the only companion in this world for you. In this road of your life with concrete and muddy roads, sometimes with quagmire and stones; the only companion is you that you are having with you. So get friendly with yourself. Start understanding yourself a lot, just as you try understanding your friend. This understanding of yourself will make you know how to handle the situations of life which are becoming a great huge hill which just cannot be crossed. Self understanding will make you find wings in your body which will lift you so high that you can fly over the hill and be safe and happy. 

Pain and tears will come. The efforts you put in flying so high with your wings will definitely bring pain and tears. Undergo it all. It is for good. Every pain we undergo will bring a new strength within us and a new way of looking at life. It will also help in inventing new solutions apart from following what everyone does.

Remember, finding new solution and achieving success with it will be the greatest contribution you can do towards humanity. 

There is also another friend who wont leave us. Some believe on this friend, some do not believe, some don’t even believe that this friend exists. It is GOD. If you believe in God, start combining yourself with God’s directions and support. It will definitely bring in you the new strength to face the clueless situations. If you do not believe in God, start believing in youself, because as you believe in youself you will understand one day that there is something else too who did this help you needed; it was not a human friend, neither you; so who was it? You will answer it that day. And if you believe God does not exist, then find out why you exist. 

Life is pretty and challenging. Handle it with caution and smartness. Look at it with love and admiration. To be afraid is not cowardice. It is natural for every human. But don’t bring this fear let you feel depressed and gloomy. If you do, then you will just lose few months of your life without doing anything useful. 

Wow! After writing this down, am feeling much better. Now let me get back to my life and see what I can do to get out of these situations.